Sira - couldn't agree more. After a long career, the last part as an entrepreneur, I've come to one important conclusion: the most important trait anyone who wants success can have is people skills.

And IMO few have this skill.

To take just one of your points, learn how to compliment sincerely, not flatter. Flattery is false praise. It's wrong and will rebound against you.

I'll go further. I ALWAYS look for something complementary to say to someone I meet. And I'm not talking about their clothes or any other "surface" comment.

In many, if not most, people I meet, there is something that stands out in the initial meeting. Was I impressed with their career or success or something they commented upon? Do they have an interesting way of expressing their thoughts? Do they obviously have good people skills? Are they enthusiastic, warm, curious, happy, cheerful, analytical and, well, I could go on.

Find something and compliment them about it. Don't overdo it. Don't force it. A simple comment suffices. Just develop that habit. That's my #1 goal for everyone that I meet!

And this also applies to friends and acquaintances. I once gave a brief talk in front of 20 couples that were part of a group that we put together to do philanthropic work with kids and education.

My topic was people skills. I told them something that sounded a bit odd and strong. I said that with my friends, if I don't hear a direct and sincere compliment from any friend of mine within a year (I should have said "monthly), I find a new friend.

They're going to hear several compliments from me over that period. If we are friends or even acquaintances, there must be something about me that they like. If so, what's holding them back? And if not, why are they hanging around me?

Are they so lacking in people skills that they can't actually put their sincere compliment into words?

Let me close by explaining why I think that people skills are the most important tool you can develop if you want to succeed: are you going to date, get married, get remarried, have neighbors, get a job, start a company or philanthropic group, have a boss, have a staff, have workmates, want to sell or buy something (like a house or car), make friends, influence people, travel in a group, send someone an idea or suggestion, etc.

All these things benefit from good people skills. Look around - few people have them. When you send an email to someone with an idea or suggestion or article or blog recommendation within it, does the recipient always thank you? I see that rarely.

Thanks for writing this blog. Excellent!

Entrepreneur, Mentor, Philanthropist, Author — published new book on core values: A FOOL’S ERRAND - Why Your Goals Are Falling Short and What You Can About It